WHAT WOMEN WANT: Ask Victoria

1. Q. My wife is very attractive bit I can’t seem to get it up. What’s wrong with me?

A: Oh you poor thing! Male Erectile Disorder (MED) is a persistent or recurrent inability to attain, or to maintain until completion of the sexual activity, an adequate erection.

That is, the individual is unable to achieve an erection that is hard enough for penetration. Although the rate of erectile dysfunction in the male population increases with age, aging itself is not thought to be the cause.

The causes are more likely illnesses, such as vascular diseases and diabetes, that may develop as a man ages, with possible contributing effects from medications taken to treat such illnesses.

There may be contributing effects as well from years of smoking or alcohol abuse. Another solution may be to turn up the heat in the bedroom with candles and my (and Don One’s) personal favorite: lingerie. Let the temperature rise and night sizzle.

2. Q: I’m 26 and have been sexually active since I was 16. I’ve had two long term relationships and several one night stands but I’ve never had an orgasm with a woman. What’s wrong with me?

A: It’s sounds as if the reason you can’t orgasm with a partner is 1.) You’re either too conscious or 2.) You’re so worried about ‘coming’ with a partner that the physical sensation doesn’t overtake you. Try to get more comfortable with the person you’re with so that you can ease up and enjoy the fun.

3. Q: How can I convince my wife to perform a threesome? Do you think the woman in the Philippines would actually consider it?

A: Whoa, cowboy! You’re not alone in that fantasy. The Philippines is a devout Catholic country but you will be pleasantly surprised with how much the Filipina has involved and transformed to be more daring and spontaneous.

You can actually witness all around you that they look sexier, dress much more flattering, and generally are much more open-minded than about a decade ago. Kudos to today’s modern pinay! But, of course there will always the conservative population.

Since you know which category your woman belongs to, you can be the judge of whether you dare ask her to perform this daring stint. A piece of advice before you start waving your permission slips: Generally, a woman (though daring) might steal response in a negative way because the female being is a very territorial species. Good luck, cowboy!

–Victoria London