WHAT WOMEN WANT: Ways to Give Her Awesome Sex

Pleasing a woman in bed can be more complicated than you think. Getting a masters degree in Nuclear Physics can be easier than mastering the art of love making sometimes. But never fear, here are several ways to rock her world, and turn “good” into “great” sex.

Easy On The Biting

Your tongue is your best weapon in certain areas. As the session becomes more intense, you can begin biting in a skillful and humane way, provided that she has no problem with it, or she is the one who starts to bite you.

The idea here is not to release your animal instincts too soon. When it comes to a woman’s breasts, inner thighs, hips, back, or any other area that doesn’t usually come into contact with a mouth, biting on such parts is not a good idea, at least not right away.

Do Some Weight Lifting—Your Own

This is not wrestling, so when you’re on top of your woman, do your best not to drop your weight on her. Petite and slim Clarissa, a bank teller, recounts how she felt like she was literally lifting a boulder whenever she hits the sack with her man.

And although she had a certain fondness for him, eventually she literally got tired, confronted him about the situation—and when he wouldn’t budge after several more sessions, it was “hasta la vista baby”, to him and his 220 lbs.

And while any woman can appreciate her man multi-tasking in bed, she would appreciate getting out of the experience alive. It might even be better if you put her on top and make her “control” you instead.

Smooth Operator

The feeling of stubble being brushed all over a woman’s body is like rubbing the spark plugs of your 1969 Mustang with a steel brush. Remember that your face isn’t your mother’s garden, so there’s no reason why you should grow Bermuda grass, unless she’s into a little S&M. your face should either be silky smooth or your facial hair can give Kenny Rogers a run for his greenback. Most women don’t enjoy the feeling of being rubbed by a “stubble burn” all over their faces, necks or any other parts of their bodies. You can also try plucking your beard and moustache if you can stand the pain (and only on your hidden time, pal—it’s a little too girly to be tweezing in the open).

Allow Her To Swallow At Her Own Depth

Us men are always guilty of shoving our swords further down when it gets too hot to handle. Then when she gags, we give that, “what did I do wrong, and what the hell are you waiting for?” look. You are not a knight during the medieval ages, and your partner is not an opponent from a rival kingdom.

Take it easy so as not to feel the wrath of women like Denise a businesswoman, who gagged and shrieked when her ex-boyfriend tried to put his wiener a little too far inside her mouth. She even gave him a little remembrance for the event. The guy saw a Junior was still a little black and blue from a good bite she left him.

Mow The Lawn

So while we’re on the topic of fellatio, why not give Ferdie Birdie a bath, and cut his hair to make sure you get the action going? Trimmed public hair is no longer exclusive from porn stars. It is a pre-exquisite for some women nowadays. You can simply cut it to about half an inch every few weeks. You can be more confident because your partner will certify that when it comes to privates “military cut” is better than growing your “fro bro.

Ring Her Bell

While your “Mine-Me” is putting on its raincoat, a little bit of stimulation with your free hand on her clitoral area could give her more pleasure. “My guy reached down between my legs and I felt I was quite humid already. He stroked me and gently fondled that little bundled of flesh that he usually leaves unexplored. I was instantly breathing so quickly!” says Anna, a 25 year-old account manager.

Feel free to Sexperiment

Sticking to one position every time makes procreation trite. “he gave me a plenty of caresses and foreplay, just like what the books and magazines suggest. He was always careful to make sure that I was well-lubricated before he comes in. he would always ask me if I liked what he was doing, and what made it worse was he always made me love in the same position – him on top and me under. The key word here is ALWAYS. It got boring.” says Becca, who works for a call center in Makati.

Sex is an expression of how you feel about your partner of how you feel about your partner: it should be surprising, different, spontaneous, and passionate. Sometimes a woman will want a man who won’t bother to test het dampness factor before he pushes himself into her. There are occasions where she’ll want you to lift her up and make her feel the thunder.

Assume The Role Of A Tourist Guide

You don’t necessarily have to play German tourist ala Deuce Bigalow, unless that strikes both your fancy. Check different places where you can get your sexual urges played out. It can be in your kitchen, garage, on the side of your swimming pool, or anywhere that doesn’t confine you to the four corners of your room. The thrill of getting caught kicks the arousal level a few notches higher.

“I have a fantasy about being tied naked to a tree in the woods, and whoever comes along can use me whoever he likes, and there’s nothing I can do to stop him.” says April, a 23-year old student. And we thought these college girls had little but getting a passing grade in Aggregate Economics on their minds…

Ask Her What She Wants

A woman needs to be caressed and aroused before and after intercourse. “As our relationship grew older, it seems that I needed to be reassured that I was still attractive, sexy, and that Johnny wasn’t simply using my body to satisfy his occasional feelings of sexual tension” says Gina, 36, who hadn’t achieved orgasm for quite some time. A woman’s difficulty in reaching her peak could be a prelude to further sexual frustration for both of you. The key here is, if you find it hard to read her mind, well, by all means ask her! Sometimes transparency could be a key to a good sex life.

Relax, Just Do It

What you and Kobe Bryrant should have in common is the skill of pacing. You should know when to summon all your energies—if it has to be at the start or in the last two minutes. Anticipate if the “game” needs to be slow or fast-paced. Make sure you still have some energy left for the “post game” rituals. And that should just about do it. Go on home to your lady, and enjoy a night of interrupted, grievance free sex.

September-October 2003 issue page34