Make her explode with Passion

Part of the pressure of every advent, is finding ways to match the implications of the journey ahead in the coming months, with surprises you can shower on your partner. Now, let’s assume that you’ve been together for sometime now. How to up the game, sparky?

You know this part: all relationships plateau at some point. Now, a humdrum point in the relationship takes its toll in increments, hence you cash in the stress and worries at the end of the year, when it accumulates. So, best for you to get your act together like now, champ!

The question is: where do we start? More to the point: how do we jazz up our tired routines when we’ve done every imaginable number from last year?

I Touch
…And she touches. A relationship that has gone through a lot puts in a lot of stress on both parties—whether it be coming from outside factors, or from within, one of the best options you can tap this year would be touching each other.
It doesn’t even have to be something sensual—yet. There is no better way to achieve a relaxed stated of mind as when you are being massaged. And when things are well with you, there is nothing like someone you feel comfortable with as your partner.

For Her

So this would be your cue then to re-program your shopping list: aromatic oils and massage lotions should top your list this year. Find out which scents you and your partner are drawn to. Ask him, that should be a good start. If he’s a little hazy about it, take samples and bring them home. Do not, however, force him to do a sniff-a-thon.

Most guys are averse to being guinea pigs for scents, so chances are—he won’t be concentrating on the task anyway. Do it subtly, when he is relaxed and therefore more receptive to such olfactory probings.

For You
Learn the basics of tactile pleasuring—massages, simple touches, areas of pleasure where she feels thrilled to be touched. A back rub is always a sure-fire hit maker. To make sure you hit the spot, in more ways than one, timing, production design and geography helps. That means the whole thing should be set so that it is a relaxed setting.

The sight and sounds surrounding us affects our state of mind.

So, if you decide to touch her inside the car, make sure that what she can’t get in terms of relaxation from the traffic, can be compensated by the soothing music. Stock up on the Enyas, Sades, Fordhams as well as Chill tracks you can program into your iPod or burned onto your CD, sparky. This is called setting the mood.

Now that we got that settled, let’s look at the spots we can start on.
Her nape, when given a light pressure, will almost always make her feel good.
Use your thumb with the rest of your fingers curled inside like a fist. Then use those opposable thumbs, Tarzan, to make a small circles on her back, while she’s watching the TV
Chances are, at this point, she will be responding by feeling the pleasure, finding out which one works for her best.
She’ll tell you which one works, don’t worry, champ.

Listen. And pay attention to her every subtle indication.
Should you guys be in the privacy of your room, substitute usual foreplay for applying relaxing oil or lotion on your naked bodies.
Some couples prefer to oil each other while standing up, and there are claims that—in terms of sexual turn-ons—this is a new height: oiling each other while standing up. Perhaps the seemingly taboo quality to it only serves to heighten the anticipation. Whatever the case, it’s a good alternative to routine foreplay.

What else? Improvise.